Three Rules Of Attraction

Men learning about how to attract women often get mixed signals on what women want and how to hurdle the friend barrier. There are a lot of misunderstandings when it comes to learning about alpha male behavior and how to be the best man you can be.

You probably get conflicting advice telling you to be confident and show that you are passionate, but are also told to remain aloof so you are a bit mysterious. So how do you do both?

Well, as with many things in life, it’s not that simple.

Be passionate and emotional about whatever it is that turns you on – except her. You can show her your excitement about life, baseball, a good hamburger, but don’t show or tell her how you feel about her in the beginning. Let that part remain a mystery. At least for the first few months. Here are three rules of attraction I like to share that helps in this area:

Three Rules of Attractions:

1. Immediately establish that you are not a friend. Once you get labeled as a friend, all bets are off buddy. Here’s what you need to do – if you haven’t kissed her by the second time you’ve gotten together, you’re a friend. Women, rarely, if ever, decide to fall in love with a guy they’ve already decided is a “friend.” Don’t argue that it happens in the movies. I know you’re smarter than that.

2. Speaking of movies. Don’t necessarily emulate the love interests in the movies nowadays. The more touchy-feely men on the big screen may appeal to a woman on an emotional level while she is watching the movie, but that’s not really what she wants in real life. In reality, she wants the old-fashioned type of guy: a strong, suave man like those portrayed by Clark Gable, Cary Grant, Indiana Jones and James Bond.

3. Don’t believe me? Do a test. Women don’t respond to men who try to buy their love with flowers, poems, and demeaning moon-eyed behavior. Date one woman. Promise her your undying love and shower her with candy and flowers.

Date a different woman. Tease her and occasionally give her a small affirmation. Make it clear she’s got to work to keep you around.

Then examine the results.

Women love men who project confidence. This is more important than good looks. Women love men who other women want. Women want men who are confident and strong and who demand respect.

Here are some other traits that attract women: power, money, looks, celebrity, and humor. But you can top all of those by being confident and self-assured.

You don’t need to have a great job. You don’t need to be loaded. You don’t need to be famous and you don’t need to be the class clown.

What you need to be is a man. You need exude manliness. You need to let her know that you are worth having and once you do that, you will be worth it and you will have succeeded in exhibiting the three rules of attraction.

-Carlos Xuma

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