3 Ways To Recover When Your Date Goes to Hell
Here’s the deal – women are generally worried about “rocking the boat” at this delicate phase, so it’s not exactly easy for some girls to speak up. Thus, it’s absolutely essential that you acknowledge that.
Try telling her something like, “Hey, I appreciate that you shared that kind of stuff with me.”
You can also add a little dash of empathy as well: “Thanks for being honest, I know it’s not easy to be that frank with someone.”
#2: Clear The Fog
Remember, it’s easy to misinterpret one another when you’re both agitated, so you’ll need to eliminate any possibility of miscommunication. Otherwise, you’ll never put the issue behind you.
So make sure you understand the point she’s trying to make (i.e. WHY she’s pissed off). If you’re not on the same page, try telling her, “So what you’re trying tell me is…” or, “Let me see if I got it right…”
But don’t be a smartass and hold the sarcasm. She wants you to validate her feelings, not get into a comeback contest.
*A Little Side Note
I know how tempting it is call her out if you feel like she’s making a big deal over nothing.
But keep the big picture in mind – is it more important to you to keep dating her and see how it plays out…
…or would you rather fire back at her now and burn your bridges for good?
This could just be a little hiccup that you’ll both laugh about years from now. But you’ll never know if you don’t play it cool for now and work out your disagreement first.
But if she truly goes BALLISTIC on you for something incredibly petty, you could very well let her have it.
If you really think her behavior is a dealbreaker – or don’t see it working out – don’t be afraid to speak up.
#3: Patch Things Up
Here’s another tip: if you truly did mess up and make her feel bad, don’t be hard on yourself. Accept that sometimes, we step on other people without meaning to.
However, you’ll still need to APOLOGIZE to show her that you’re owning up to your little slip-up. But you don’t have to go on about it and look like a wimp in the process.
Make it short and sweet by saying, “I’m sorry for stepping on your boundaries. I didn’t know that it would offend you, but I get it now.”
Lucky for Mike, his date called him back after a week. He scaled things back a bit by casually meeting up at a coffee shop (good move!) to hash out their last date.
After applying my advice, Mike found out that her parents were huge fans of 80s rock, hence her soft spot for that kind of music. When Mike showed that he understood her reasons for getting upset, she felt that he actually cared about what she thinks and feels.
One of the most important traits of an Alpha Male is knowing how to pick your battles. Temper your strength with restraint – it’s all about BALANCE.
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