How To Talk to Women
3 Mistakes Most Guys Make When They Learn How To Talk to Women
If you pay attention to these mistakes, you are going to shave a few months and several hours off your learning curve on how to talk to women. Read them, think about them and let them sink in and you will be a head above the rest of the leg humping guys out there trying to get the girl.
How To Talk To Women MISTAKE #1: Starting out as Friends.
For whatever reason, be it insecurity or fear of rejection or what have you, I see guy after guy thinking that starting out as “friends first” is the way to make a girl interested.
I almost wonder if we men are embarrassed to show that we are interested or that we try to camouflage our interest as something else.
Sometimes it gave us the balls to go up to a woman by convincing ourselves and her that we were just walking up to talk to her on a friendship level and not hitting on her. I like to call this behavior motivated by the “fear of being found out.”
Have you ever asked the time as a way to approach a woman? Then when she answers, what do you say next? Not much. It doesn’t leave much room for conversation.
Here’s a little secret – when women say they want to be friends first, they want to see how you will react. If you get mad or frustrated, then the woman assumes you just wanted to have sex with her. But if you respond by showing you are confident and sexual, then you don’t come off as a wimp looking for her permission to be interested.
Trying to be friends first tells her you are insecure, needy, and not sure of your ability to make her happy as a man! It is approval-seeking behavior, which is NEVER attractive.
How To Talk To Women MISTAKE #2: Depending On A Pick Up Line
Too many men think that what they say for the first time to a woman is a make-or-break situation. In reality, the first thing you say is the last thing you need to worry about.
What does matter is your sincerity and believability in what you say.
In other words, it’s not what you say; it’s how you say it.
Here is one opener that is always successful because it is sincere and believable:
“Hi, I hope you don’t mind, but I don’t have a clever pickup line. I just wanted to come over and say hello. My name is …”
When you say this, you are telling her quite a few things about yourself. You are telling her that you know picking up women is a game and you are above that. You are telling her you have confidence and sincere and that you aren’t trying to con her.
How To Talk To Women #3: Not Learning From Your Mistakes
The men who are most successful with women are those who have taken the time to learn from their mistakes. I’ve learned a lot from what they have shared with me. One thing that surprised me was seeing these men who date loads of women crash and burn at times.
Even these pros still had times when they had to deal with rejection. But they didn’t have any fear of it.
They took it in stride. They knew what worked and what didn’t. They knew how to get women to talk to them and go home with them. But sometimes they struck out. During those times, they learned from what went wrong and moved on.
If you avoid these mistakes when learning how to talk to women, you are on your way to living the good life and dating amazing women.