Dating Tips For Guys
Dating Tips For Guys
It happens on every single date that involves booze or food – the bill comes and for a split second, you wonder what to do. If you know me and have heeded my dating tips for guys, then this dinner-type date will not occur until you’ve got together with the woman at least three of four times.
At that point, you are probably going to insist on taking her to dinner, which is really a necessity that is going to happen sooner or later. So, when it does, how do you deal with the bill?
It’s easy if you pay attention to my dating tips for guys: Pick up the check and act as if you are going to pay it. Whatever you do, don’t ignore it as it sits between the two of you like the elephant in the room that nobody wants to acknowledge.
Be an alpha male. Take the initiative and pick up the bill. Then wait and watch. If the woman says nothing then she is taking on the traditional (if old-fashioned) “I’m the woman on a date” role. And there isn’t anything wrong with that.
If she offers to go Dutch and pay for her portion, thank her and say, “I’ve got it.”
If she insists, then this means either that she is a modern woman and wants to let you know she can pay her way or that she wants to ensure she doesn’t feel obligated to you. Either way, you should insist on paying – at least the first time this happens.
After this first date with a bill, wait until at least two more dates and see if she offers to help pay the bill. By this time, that should happen. Otherwise, it may be a sign that she is a gold-digger and expects you to pay for everything. Don’t ignore this. It needs to be addressed.
As I mentioned above, one of the dating tips for guys I share is to avoid a dinner date scenario for your first few dates. If you want to impress her, whip up a tasty meal. It is romantic and it helps progress your relationship and intimacy much quicker.
These initial dates are ways to test out if she is the type of woman you want to date for a longer term. You have a set of guidelines and boundaries you expect and if the woman doesn’t live up to them or match your desires, it’s better to cut to the chase early.
As part of my dating tips for guys, let me share some things I look for on those early dates that show whether she has respect for me and longer-term potential. When I see these red flags, I just move on. Especially when I see two or more of them:
1. Not being punctual when we meet or not being ready when I arrive at a designated time. Someone once told me that people who are late think that their time is more valuable than yours.
2. Comments that are passive aggressive or inappropriate. For instance, an insult that is subtly veiled and not part of good-natured teasing.
3. Insisting on a change of plans or the expectation that you will cater to her every whim, even when they are spur of the moment.