Approach Women And Talk To Women
Approach Women And Talk To Women
I tell you what my Alpha friends, when it comes to my journey with women and the overall development process I went through to become the man I wanted to be, the most difficult issue was how I could muster up the confidence to approach women.
Even with the help of my mentor from afar, Carlos Xuma, I still found it trying and impossible to figure out how to talk to women.
One thing I will say is that Carlos’ theory in Secrets of the Alpha Male about the Quantum Leap may sound confusing at first, but it is certainly true. You can only truly understand it when you realize you’ve gone through it.
After a while, you’re going to be doing this stuff for so long that one day it will just click. One day you’ll just realize you’ve gotten it. And that’s the best feeling in the world.
So, let’s go over what you can do now to improve your ability to approach women and get out there talking to women right away…
Approach Women Fundamentals:
The main issue I want to talk about today is rapport. Rapport is finding a common ground or interest to talk about with a person and finding that connection – getting you and that other person to “click.”
In order to establish rapport with a complete stranger, though, you’ve really got to open your eyes and ears.
Still afraid that you’ll sound stupid? Well, I know the number one way to get you in the flow of things. There’s one word that is an instant conversation starter with a woman.
Ready to discover it?
“Hi!” – All you need to do is walk up to women with a confident smile and say “hi!” If you have to, practice it, because it’s well worth it. Once you’ve done that, then it’s easy. Most guys out there don’t have the balls to do that, and if you can swell yours up to the point of doing it, you’ve put yourself ahead of a large portion of men.
And she’ll recognize that.
So now let’s get into how you can open up your eyes and ears enough to establish rapport after you approach women and gotten her attention.
First thing’s first, and I’ve talked about this before, you have to check her out. She may notice, but if you’re not creepy about it, it may flatter her. Once you’ve done that, you should take notice to certain things about her.
Next, once you’re talking, you have to actually listen. Don’t even think about what you’re going to say next. Just listen and make silent observations. The conversation should flow after that.
Still confused? I’m going to give you some major things to look for and talk about (and not talk about) in a cold conversation with a woman that you can take home (or out in the field) and use today!
Approach Women Tip 1) With Your Eyes
1.) One thing that you’ll definitely want to look out for that girls absolutely LOVE to talk about is an interesting article of clothing. If she’s wearing a flamboyant hat or a colorful scarf, take advantage of it and talk to her. Here’s an example of how you can chat her up… You can definitely get some cocky-funny going here while establishing rapport with her.
2.) Another big deal in a woman’s life is her jewelry. A lot of the medal she wears has a certain significance and a story behind it in her life. It’s also a great way to tell if she has a boyfriend or not. Regardless, keep an ear out. You’ll be able to tell a lot from the jewelry she wears.
3.) Finally, take a good look and see what she’s carrying. Did she just buy a book? Are you familiar with it or its subject matter? Great! There’s an instant conversation starter. Is she randomly carrying a telescope? Well, it’s a great way to find out if there’s a meteor shower tonight and if she needs a partner to watch it! Remember, open your eyes and you can learn a lot.
Approach Women Tip 2) With Your Ears
This is pretty self explanatory, so I’m not going to go into list form here, but when you’re truly listening, you’ll be able to pick out all kinds of things about her personality and relate or tease in any fashion you’d like.
You’ll be able to tell if she’s family-oriented, a pet lover, an obsessive-compulsive nut or all of the above just by listening to what she says. So make sure you pay attention.
Before I let you go, I want to make one thing totally clear, and this is the only time you should do this. You need to send mixed signals. When you’re establishing rapport, you should show her that you’re paying attention, but don’t LOOK like you’re paying attention. Turn slightly away from her and don’t look at her the whole time. Smile, but use a sly smile and not a gaping cheeser.
The main thing we want to do here is to show her that you are definitely listening but she can lose you at any moment. It puts you in a power role and that’s our biggest goal, because that’s your number one confidence booster in approaching more and more women. Good luck my brothers!
Approach women NOW!