Going in For the Kiss: 4 Easy Steps
#2: Feel Her Out First
Soldiers won’t go into a war zone without gathering enough “intel” first. Going in blindly with guns blazing is the equivalent of suicide.
In the same way, don’t shoot yourself in the foot by kissing a girl without knowing what’s going through her head. The smarter move would be to do your homework first.
And the best way to figure out her internal state is by keeping an eye out for external signs. Ask yourself: does she tend to pull back when you touch her?
I don’t mean copping a feel or anything sleazy like that. I’m talking about “accidentally” rubbing arms or hands, or any other “appropriate” areas.
Same goes for playfully punching her on the shoulder or a giving a friendly peck on the cheek. If she seems receptive enough, you’ve got a good thing going for you.
Also, consider if she doesn’t mind being in close proximity to you. Does she tend to keep a friendly distance, or is she cool with you being in her “personal zone”?
Take a mental step back and observe her behavior. You’re headed in the right direction if she’s showing signs of being comfortable being around you, and not just in a casual way.
If not, don’t sweat it – it just means you need to build more comfort. And that brings us to the next step…
#3: Keep At It
Salesmen know they can’t suddenly just close the sale and drop the product on a client if they’re not in the right frame of mind yet. To help a girl open up to the idea of kissing you, she needs to know how much you’re into her – in a subtle way.
Obviously, you’ll kill your game by telling straight-up how you really feel about her. To hint at your intentions without raising the alarm, disarm her with the right non-verbal cues, like looking in her eyes and making physical contact for a couple of seconds.
By being clear about your intentions without beating her over the head with it, she’ll get the signal loud and clear. On top of that, you’ll also need to pile on the good-natured humor, like teasing her and giving her “a hard time”.
All of this adds up to the fact that you don’t think of her as “just a friend”. Better to kill that platonic vibe right away so kissing her won’t feel like it came out of nowhere.
Admittedly, it’s a bit tricky to pull off the right vibe that tells her “I know what I want, but I’m not going to be a douche about it.”
Generally, women like a man who won’t hesitate to make his move when the time’s right. At the same time however, they also want someone who respects them enough to wait until they’re ready.
The ONLY way to walk that fine line and win her heart is by having mad amounts of SELF-CONFIDENCE. Without it, you’ll never have the courage to go through all the phases of courtship until you’ve finally seduced her.